|Better Marriages North Carolina is a group of couples who believe in marriage, know that a good marriage takes some work, and that communication with other married couples really helps improve our own relationships. We are affiliated with Better Marriages, a nonsectarian nonprofit which is based in Winston-Salem, North Carolina. We are not affiliated with any religious denomination. Better Marriages North Carolina invites you to consider making your marriage the best it can be. Help yourself while helping others!||
|Please look through our website and see how you can participate with other North Carolina couples.|
Educating Couples for Vibrant, Lifelong RelationshipsWe all want the same thing, whether our relationship has just begun or we've been married for years: We want a
mutually-satisfying relationship with the one we
love. Check us out. We're confident you'll find
something that serves your interests well. Better
Marriages North Carolina exists to serve you as a
couple, whatever the stage of your life and
MissionTo promote better marriages by providing enrichment opportunities and resources to strengthen couple relationships, increase intimacy, and enhance personal growth, mutual fulfillment, and family wellness.
VisionTo create a network of couples building healthy marriages by providing marriage education and enrichment opportunities in partnership with other public, private, and faith-based organizations.
In September of 1967, and at the age of 60, David Mace moved to Winston-Salem, NC to become a Professor of Sociology with the Bowman Gray School of Medicine at Wake Forest University. Previously David and his spouse Vera had jointly served as executive directors of the American Association of Marriage Counselors from 1960-1967, and even earlier during the 1940’s as joint directors of the Marriage Guidance Council in England. They would both move to the United States in 1949 when David would begin his first decade of professorship at Drew University in New Jersey, before finally making their last move to North Carolina.
Following a lifetime of “working for better marriages”, David and Vera would establish the Association for Couples in Marriage Enrichment (ACME) on their fortieth wedding anniversary in July of 1973. Following their slogan for ACME, “to work for better marriages, beginning with our own”, David and Vera would create an organization that married couples could join to express their support of marriage and grow in their marriage relationship. This emphasis would significantly differ from their earlier focus on counseling and intervention, and instead focus on enrichment and education. According to David Mace:
||“Our hope was that it might be quite natural (with no direct religious, political or professional connections of any kind) and might, therefore, become a coordinating agency for other organizations that were developing programs in this new field; that it might undertake the task of setting standards for leadership; that it might encourage the development of local chapters which could promote in their communities the cause of better marriage.” (Mace, Close Companions, 1982).|
Following establishment of the parent organization, a small group of North Carolina couples, many from the Winston-Salem area, soon joined to establish the Association for Couples in Marriage Enrichment North Carolina Council. With a focus on marriage support groups and education, North Carolina has grown to include marriage enrichment groups across the state.
Most recently, following the lead of the national
organization (Better Marriages), our state organization
has undergone a name change, becoming known as Better
Marriages NC, and continues to operate with one of the
largest state memberships nationally. Better Marriages
North Carolina has presented an annual marriage
enrichment conference for four decades, frequently
during the month of February. Additionally, North
Carolina is the home of the Better Marriages national
office, located in Winston-Salem, NC.
Friday Night Speakers
|"Falling in Love is More than Butterflies"
Candy and Doug Murray have been married for 43 years and members of Better Marriages
for nearly all of their marriage. They are the President Couple of the Board of
Better Marriages NC.
|"Growing Deeper in Love, with Inside Info"
Roberta and Hal Melton are celebrating 49 years of marriage next month! They joined Better Marriages
in early 1980s, and have been a Certified Leader Couple since 2007. They are currently the VP Couple
for the Better Marriages NC Board.
"Exploring Our Differences: Me and Thee"
Sue and Dave Long have been married 51 years and have been members of Better Marriages since 1977, beginning in Texas,
where they received their leader couple training.
In their international work they have led marriage enrichment training at a seminary in Brazil and led groups in Bermuda and Mexico.
"Becoming Loving and Lovable"
Jim and Kathy Weidner have been married 22 years and been members of ACME/Better Marriages for most of that time.
They have served in various positions over the years including president couple.
Sunday Morning Speakers
"Being a Supportive Spouse"
Eddie and Sylvia Robertson have been married for 54 years. Long-time Better Marriages members, they are trainers of
leader couples and members of the Board of Better Marriages Georgia. They call Better Marriages North Carolina
|"Pandemic Recovery Great Date"
Better Marriages NC hosted an online event
APRIL 2, SATURDAY, 10:00 A.M. Eastern Time
CLAUDIA AND DAVID ARP, MSW
The main event was followed by an excellent training opportunity:
|"Reaching New Heights"
During the weekend of April 26-28, 2019, couples who wanted
to grow their relationship gathered for a weekend
of skills building and fun in Montreat, NC.
This event was held in Raleigh/Durham NC in March of 2018. The online brochure can be reviewed below.
|"Do You Hear Me Now: Communicating
Your Way to Intimacy"
& Myra will share their communication
highs and lows throughout their 40-year
relationship and 37 years of
marriage. Today they may look like
the perfect couple, but they’ve come a
long way since they said, “I do.” During
this presentation, they will share how
they stumbled upon a path toward intimacy
|About the Presenters:
Marriage Facilitators Michael and Myra Holmes have been courting for 40 years and have survived and thrived more than 37 years of marriage. They are Certified Professional Life Coaches, Certified Better Marriages Leader Couple, Certified Prepare/Enrich Facilitators, and Co-Marriage Ministry Servant Leaders at Six Mount Zion Baptist Temple. In addition, Michael and Myra present marriage/relationship seminars for the Hampton Department of Social Services Healthy Family Partnership and Mary Immaculate Hospital. They have coached and mentored hundreds of couples over the years.
Michael served 27 years in the U.S. Air Force before he retired in May 2006 in the rank of Colonel.
Myra and Michael reside in York County, VA. Mike and Myra enjoy helping couples learn how to give and receive love.
|"Speaking to be
Heard: Are you talking to ME?!"
with Jim and Johnne Armentrout
Communicating is not a science—it’s an art. And we all have our own style of the art of communicating. So how do we make our style of speaking, including the non-verbal signals we all have and use, effectively heard by our spouse? We’ll explore some styles of communicating and some tips on how to be as effective as possible. Be ready to explore your own styles of couple communicating and be ready to be open to some changes in that process.
|About the Presenters:
For nearly 40 of their 49 years of marriage, Jim and Johnne have been involved in Better Marriages. They have experienced the depth and breadth of Better Marriages from a local Marriage Enrichment Group to the National Board of Directors. Having presented at many Better Marriages national conferences, state conferences and local chapter meetings, their experience in presenting the topics of concern to conference participants in a creative and entertaining manner is well known to previous attendees. Johnne is still doing private counseling on a part-time basis and Jim continues to use his legal training as a consultant to a utility contracting company. The families of their 3 children, which include 8 grandchildren, all of whom live within 10 minutes of their home in Winston-Salem, keep them busy with a most important aspect of life—family.
"Listening to Understand"
with Hal and Roberta Melton
The ASSUMPTION that words spoken are understood, even with the full attention of the listener, can frustrate communication (in the least) and even lead to misunderstanding that hurts our relationship! Let's have some fun demonstrating this phenomenon and then look at some ways to enhance understanding (and thus minimize misunderstanding).
|About the Presenters:
Hal and Roberta Melton celebrated their 43rd anniversary of marriage this year. They are proud parents and grandparents. Both are still working - Hal as associate pastor at Trinity Baptist Church in Raleigh and Roberta as practice manager at Internal Medicine and Pediatric Associates in Cary. They are a Better Marriages Leadership Couple and enjoy leading a thriving Marriage Ministry in their church as well as doing retreats for others.
"Speaking + Listening = Dialogue"
with Eddie and Sylvia Robertson
In Better Marriages, Dialogue lets couples join their speaking and listening skills hand in hand, knee to knee and heart to heart. Dialogue can be used for multiple purposes: checking in, exploring, problem solving, affirmation. It can be used by one couple at home or, when witnessed by others, is a wonderful source of cross-learning when couples share experiences and not advice. This workshop is intended for first timers and for those who have enjoyed using dialogue for many years.
|About the Presenters:
Eddie and Sylvia Robertson are a Trainer Couple for Better Marriages. They are Editors of the Leaders' Forum, authors of Wonderful Wednesdays; 52 Conversations for Couples, and facilitators of the Virtual Marriage Enrichment Group, first Tuesdays at 8 pm Eastern Time. Their blogs are posted at www.eddieandsylviarobertson.com and on Eddie and Sylvia Robertson Marriage Enrichment on Facebook.
Couples from Charlotte to
Burlington and points in between gathered for a
wonderful dinner and program in February of 2017
at the Village Inn and Events Center in Clemmons,
NC. The Program based on Gary Chapman’s book on The
Five Love Languages was led by MaryJane and
Larry Lieberman. The food was delicious and the
program was even better. All present were grateful
to Jean Brewer and other organizers of the event
for providing a great evening of fun and
More than 40 couples gathered
for a wonderful weekend in April 2016 at the Lake
Junaluska resort to explore the topic of "Buidling
a Healthy Marriage." Seven speaker couples
presented various topics that helped
partners consider the importance of creating
healthy or healthier marriages.
More information about the program is available in
the brochure linked here.
|A great group of couples enjoyed a fantastic
conference/retreat in Cary on March 6-7, 2015 to
explore the theme of "Unplug to Connect:
Disconnecting from Distractors to Enhance Your
Relationship." In addition to top-notch presenters
and meaningful opportunities to enjoy inentional
dialogue, the event featured fun time for
socializing and sharing between couples. You can
see more about the program by reviewing the
|A great group of couples escaped to a romantic mountain inn for a weekend filled with education, connections and experiences focused on enriching their marriages! We gathered on April 4-6, 2014, at the Lake Lure Inn, where scenes from the iconic movie Dirty Dancing was filmed. A highlight of the wonderful weekend was the program facilitated by expert leaders Clay and Jane Turner, who guided couples to help everyone discover the full potential in their marriages. You can check out the print brochure here.|
|Couples had a wonderful time at the Better
Marriages NC's annual conference on February 8-9,
2013, in Clemmons, NC. Using the theme of "Keep It
Simple Sweetie," we offered quality sessions
designed to help couples look at their relevant
issues. Presenters were local experienced
favorites who present marriage enrichment in very
entertaining and meaningful ways, and married
couples had the opportunity to hear and dance to
your favorite love songs during the conference!
This was a great time to connect with other
couples committed to their marriages and it was
definitely a weekend to remember. Check out the
|Thank you to everyone who joined us for a
fantastic marriage enrichment experience in
western North Carolina on Friday, April 20 to
Sunday, April 22, 2012. From quality sessions
designed to help couples look at their relevant
issues, to fantastic local mountain music, dancing
and dining where couples connected with others
committed to their marriages, to exclusive time to
enjoy the area's beautiful offerings, this was
certainly a weekend to remember. To see more about
the program, take a look at the brochure
||We had a wonderful time in 2011 at our annual retreat and conference. Using the theme of "Stop in the Name of Love: Relax, Reconnect, Renew," more than 40 couples gathered in Raleigh to focus on enriching their marriages. To see more about the program, take a look at this brochure.|
Visit these links to view a variety of materials for a wide range of couple interests, available from the Better Marriages national website:
||Candy and Doug Murray
|Past President Couple
||Carl and Nancy Terry
|Vice President Couple
|| Hal and Roberta Melton
||Chris and Ron Musgrave
||Chris and Ron Musgrave
|Directors at Large
||Beth and Jim Flanagan
|Chuck and Renee Hinson
|MJ and Larry Lieberman
|Dave and Sue Long
||Larry and MJ Lieberman
704-232-0891 or 704-534-1988
||Tom and Polly Harris
|Carl and Nancy Terry
Trinity Baptist Church
|Van and Julie Daughtry
||Jennifer Taylor and Sam Tannous
||Jean and Ray Brewer
336-978-8611 or 336-972-6941
|Carl and Nancy Terry 919-845-4825
Doug and Candy Murray 828-450-5098